Halloween 2016

Halloween is one of my favorite days to play with my kids. This Halloween Awesome Husby was out of town on a business trip to San Diego so I was all alone with my kids. I'm always lonely when he is gone but this time was a little better because my kids had Halloween off school and I enjoyed being with them all day long. We carved pumpkins, ate Cafe Rio take out for dinner and then went Trick-or-Treating together. 

Carving pumpkins is a lot harder than it looks. It takes a lot of patience and some good fine motor skills; all things my children are developing. Every year that goes by I'm encouraging my kids to be a little more independent. This year I told them they were going to carve their pumpkins on their own as much as possible. I watched as they struggled, did better than they thought they could, adapted, complained, asked for help, gave up, and continued with perseverance. This year they learned that things that are fun aren't always easy. While they worked I fished out pumpkin seeds from the guts to roast later, which are a traditional favorite in our family.

Marilyn had the most perseverance carving pumpkins out of all of my kids. She's got lots of practice with that perseverance stuff. Max even carves his pumpkin like a ninja! I hurried and took this picture during the first two minutes of Noah carving his pumpkin because that's how long it took for him before he said, "to heck with it" and went to find something else to do, and that's OK.

Linda came over every day after school to give me some adult companionship and make and eat dinner together. What a difference it made in my mood! She and Kim helped me clean my house, fold my laundry, and work on gardening projects together. On one of these days he told me a story I didn't remember from growing up; it's interesting how differently we remember things. We lived duplicate lives and yet things that made impressions on her didn't on me and vice versa. When I was 7 or 8 my teacher made us pumpkin seeds and brought them to school to share. For an assignment we had to write a recipe on a card and I wrote the recipe for roasted pumpkin seeds. I'd never had them before and apparently loved them so much that I saved that recipe card for months and gave it to my mom for a present for Mother's Day or something. 39 year old me thought that was really adorable of 7 or 8 year old me! I think I like pumpkin seeds even better now. 

Halloween night the kids and I set out to go Trick-or-Treating. Noah was a cobbled together amalgam of whatever he could find in our costume box and around the house that he thought would be fun. He wore these goggles the whole time that shined blue lights out of them and he covered it up with a black ski mask. He could barely see where he was going and I spent the whole night guiding him around while he held onto my arm. That kid! Marilyn was a very pretty self made version of Raspberry Torte from the cartoon Strawberry Shortcake. Max was a green ninja. I always feel so carefree and childlike with my kids when we Trick-or-Treat together and this night was no different.

October Happenings

Noah is so funny. He loves animals SO much even though he is allergic to them. One day he was walking home from school and when his siblings made it home and he wasn't with them I went looking for him. I found him and his little friend Carolina on a street near our house. The first thing I noticed was Carolina struggling to hold all of the books and rubbish from Noah's backpack. "Noah needs a lesson on being a gentleman," I thought to myself. I invited Noah and his friend to climb into the van and the next thing I noticed was how Noah was cradling his zipped up backpack in his arms and how it started to move like there was something alive in it. Then it yowled. He immediately looked at my face to see what my reaction to all of this was going to be and it was so hilarious. His face read, "Uh-oh. My mom probably noticed that. What's she gonna say when I tell her what's in here?" It was a cat - the neighbors cat. He had taken off the collar to justify to himself that the cat was now "homeless" and needed to be rescued. He told me so and that he needed to take it home and give it a place to live. It took a lot of persuading to convince him that by doing so he'd be taking the cat away from his family, which would be wrong and that someone would miss him. Ugh.

Marilyn and I have had some really good Mommy/daughter moments this month. We celebrated "White Cane Day" together at the Hogle Zoo with the USDB and her friends from "Short Term" programs. It was so wonderful because there were docents all over with animal skins, skull, models, high contrast pictures and other tactile objects that the students could touch to help them "see" the animals at the zoo. They also told us a lot of interesting facts about each animal. At one station we got to see and touch a tortoise, a snake, a hissing cockroach, and a ferret.

One night Marilyn and I stayed up late after putting the boys to bed and I let her try on all of the special dresses I had saved throughout the years. She wore the dress my mom made me for my 9th grade promotion, the Sr. Prom dress my mom made me, the dresses I wore for Heidi and Linda's wedding, and we got out my wedding dress and she tried on my veil. It was a giggly night that helped us feel close to each other.

Marilyn had a piano recital where she played a duet with her piano teacher and did great! She is really maturing. This time around she enjoyed herself more, was pretty relaxed and didn't get so bothered when she made a small mistake or two. Plus she sounded great!

Max was especially excited to open an account at our credit union and we took the other two with to open up accounts for them too. Max had saved up $21 to put in his account!

I wasn't feeling well one day and Max curled up on the couch and had some snuggles with me. He's been my super-duper little sweetheart lately.

My Christopher and I have been fitting in some wonderful dates with each other. Those are the best of times. I sure love him! We took advantage of being alone with each other on Columbus Day when he had the day off work and the kids were at school to go on a hike to a nearby mine that I'd never heard of. 

My Awesome Husby and I find time to date each other even when we can't have a traditional date. Earlier this month Max was still having soccer practice at a park after dinner once a week and on one of those nights we left Marilyn home, Noah to play nearby at the park and Chris and I went hand in hand on a walking date right there at the park. Look at how lovely it was! I LOVE walking with him and connecting. Sometimes I have a hard time getting my words to come out but walking will always loosen them up.

Megan, Joel, Paisley and Emerson came into town for a wedding and that Friday I went shopping with Megan, Paisley and Emerson to help them get ready. I had such a fun time being around my two little niecephew buddies again. That night all five of us sisters and my parents met for dinner at an Italian restaurant for dinner. It was fantastic to all be together again and celebrate my mom's birthday. We all went in together and gave her a beautiful amethyst pendant since amethysts are her favorite. She loved it! That Sunday both sides of Emerson's family met at the Park Park to eat cake and celebrate Emerson's first birthday. Then we went to my parent's house and had dinner together again. I love soaking up those family moments. 

This fall break from school the kids and I have been enjoying ourselves. The first day we had a Princess and Prince Tea Party at the Memory Care Center Grandpa Parker lives in now. Grandma Parker and all the Utah Parker cousins came and it was a lot of fun to all be there together with Grandpa. There were fancy treats and lemonade to snack on, crowns to decorate, fall games to play, and even a "Sparkle Station" where the boys could spray their hair different colors and the girls could paint their fingernails and wear sparkly make-up.

Grandpa Parker is finally starting to settle in to his new home at the care center and we are starting to settle in to the idea of him living there. Bev takes SUCH amazing care of him and visits him for long stretches every day. I try to take the kids there a few times a week which is pretty easy because the center is right down the road from us and Noah begs to go there almost daily because he loves the cat who lives there, "Morris". I visit Bill by myself once a week in the afternoon when I take him to the kids' school to volunteer with me in my sister's classroom where we sit and listen to kids read out loud to us. Then we go on a walk around the park and eat ice cream cones or get a soda. Chris and I visit together at least once a week, oftentimes without the kids so we can enjoy our time with him without managing kids. Chelsea visits him at least once a week while most of her kids are at school and Brendan's family gets there as often as possible. He's also got great friends and ward members who go visit often. He is loved and being well taken care of. He's not nearly as bewildered at being there as he was.

The kids and I spent another afternoon at Lagoon with Grandma Buckholts and a bunch of their Buckholts cousins plus Aunt Krista. We enjoyed a blissfully warm October day at the end of another wonderful season full of fun Lagoon times. 

One Sunday after church we were packing up in the car to go home and Noah was no where to be seen. We called for him and said to each other, "Oh, well. He's probably walking home or else when he sees us starting to drive away he'll come running. We decided to drive around the church with our windows down and keep calling/looking for him. From off in the distance we heard what I thought sounded like some kid calling from far away or my mommy's mind imagining something. It's a good thing Chris heard it too because it was real, it was Noah, and it was coming from a the furthest back grassy corner of our church's property. We pulled up, Chris popped out to inspect and what he saw amazed and freaked me out a bit. Noah had wanted to get to the farm on the other side of the fence and decided he'd try to crawl under the fence, and the concrete supporting it, and between a cemented in water overflow drain. He was stuck in the mud, with one leg wedged under the fence and the gap in the cement and couldn't get out. We literally had to dig him out! Chris hopped the fence in his dress shoes and I drove home really fast to get a shovel. I hurried back, passed the shovel over the fence to Awesome Husby and he dug and I pulled. Finally Noah popped out. It was a little like when Winnie the Pooh gets stuck in Rabbit's hole only Noah's crisis was due to mischief rather than honey.

July Joy

This month was packed full of so much goodness that by the end I seriously cried every night before I went to bed because I was overwhelmed by my blessings.

Random and Awesome Summer Moments: Kids and friends playing in the yard, Husby and I going on nightly walks, eating dinner in the backyard as a family, learning how to garden, mowing the lawn, and lazy kids watching TV.

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Fourth of July: Fun. Hot. Morning parade in a primo spot due to Uncle Dave's awesome skills. Nasty Bean Boozled jelly beans. Fireworks late at night with Linda's family too.

Kids started Summer School: Easiest way for Mommy to not feel guilty. Max says it's too easy. Noah says it's fun to be with friends again. I help Marilyn work on her writing editing skills, two digit multiplication and fractions for the last hour. Then I torture my kids by taking them to "free school lunch" where I make them eat so I don't have to make their lunch at home.

Lagoon: Noah finally rode the scariest, newest roller coaster there, Cannibal, and says he loves it now. We rode it 3 times in a row and I'm super proud of him. Maybe he'll actually like Lagoon now.

Camp Abilities: Marilyn had an amazing opportunity to attend a week long sleep away camp with the USDB and a bunch of other kids including her special friends Conner and Lexi. It was held at Weber State University in their state of the art facilities and new dorm rooms. They rappelled down a waterfall, played tons of field games including beep kickball and handball, practiced track and field sports, rode tandem bikes, went bowling, swimming and I'm sure it was the highlight of her summer. I wish we had more pictures but since I wasn't there we don't have any except the ones I took at the closing ceremony when the kids participated in the color run.

Marilyn got her hair cut: Big time. Out of the blue. And I was so surprised because she has been very driven to grow her hair long ever since we adopted her. She looked gorgeous before and she looks gorgeous, and so different, now. I love it and so does she! She was able to donate her hair to a child who needed it.

Noah and Max cleaned out the garage: All on their own. Without me even asking them to do it! And Noah organized our enormous pile of shoes and then reminded everyone for days to put them away and quit being such slobs. Talk about irony. I was thrilled and he was proud.

Play Date with the Green's: We drove down to spend some time with our special friends. They have 10 amazing kids, 7 of them from China. Marilyn, Lexi, and Conner are especially good friends since they have gone to so many "short terms" and camps together. The kids played in their pool while the mom's chatted. Conner and Marilyn played the piano together, Sophi and Noah played with stuffed animals, Max ran around with Xander, and the best part of the night was when Conner, Marilyn and Lexi realized they all knew the same nursery song from their time growing up in China and they sang it together in Mandarin.

Days of '47 Float Preview Party and Leatherby's Ice Cream for Dinner: One of my favorite holiday celebrations of the year where we enjoy all of the best parts of Utah's fantastic parade inside. Marilyn and I had our best time ever enjoying all the sparkly parade floats, the kids all got their faces painted and balloon creations made, and we stuffed ourselves for dinner. Oh how I LOVE to see my sweet children's faces all painted up cute and I love to see what they choose to have them painted as.

My 39th Birthday: I did whatever I wanted and since I am obsessed with gardening right now that's what I did. All. Day. Long. I bought myself 5 new gigantic pots, went to a ton of garden centers and nurseries, bought all the half dead, nearly free plants I could find and made them look nice. I can't wait to see how they fill out in a few weeks. 

I realized I love my age and it doesn't bother me a bit to be getting older because I have the life and the children I always longed for.

Noah went to the YMCA's Camp Roger, Marilyn went to Grandpa and Grandma Buckholts' house, and Max, Daddy and I went on his 8 YEAR OLD TRIP!!!! Those were the best and I'll talk about them later.

June Fun

June has been filled with my first attempts at gardening, Grandma Camp, Braille Camp, the splash pad with Aunt Desi and cousins, a few trips to Lagoon with Buckholts cousins, RAD kids class, an overnight camping trip to YMCA's Camp Roger, Laura's trip to the Thanksgiving Point Gardens with Linda and Kim, Activity Day Camp for Marilyn, Father's Day, watching the air show in the backyard with Daddy, dinner out for me with ALL of my sisters (Megan was in town for GC) and my mom, walks with my amazing husby after the kids are in bed, and heavenly weather and sunshine.

It's been a GREAT month.

My Garden: Up until this year I haven't had a single flower growing in my yard and I've liked it that way. It was neat, tidy, and easy to maintain. It pretty much sums up my personality. Marilyn has had other preferences though and has been begging me to grow pretty things. So we caved. And now I'm hooked. I'm the most doting flower mommy there is now over my pathetic beginners gardens and I'm loving every minute of it.

RAD Kids: I've signed my kids up for as many classes and camps as possible to keep them busy and happy AND NOT FIGHTING WITH EACH OTHER! RAD Kids was a class taught by the city police which taught them all about  personal safety including how to fight an abductor. If a child is abducted and they don't make any noise their chances of survival are something like 3%. If they fight back and make a lot of noise the percentage goes way up. It was such a fun and useful class that I'm going to sign them up every summer from now on. And did you get that? In order to keep my children from getting bored and fighting with each other I had professionals teach them how to fight? Ha! Luckily they haven't used any of their new moves on each other yet.

Overnight Family Camping Trip: Noah's going to the YMCA's Camp Roger for a whole week in late July so we went up as a family for an overnighter to test it out at the annual "Open House". It helped put Noah more at ease getting to experience a little of the atmosphere and fun ahead of time. Max especially loved the campfire program full of silly songs and skits that the camp counselors put on, Noah fell in love with the horses and had fun doing the archery, and Marilyn liked having her own bunk bed in the cozy little cabin. The kids got to do all kind of activities including roasting marshmallows, archery, horseback riding, mountain biking, face painting, and an orienteering mini class. Noah's going to have a fantastic time there later this month.

Day of Service at Grandpa and Grandma's house: Right after school got out Noah and I spent a day at my parents house helping them with various things and Noah got some time with my sister's doggie Dash. This is a rare treat for Noah because he is highly allergic to animals. He so loves Dash though and it was excellent play therapy for both of them! Afterwards he got a long bath in Grandma's special jet tub and felt like a king.

Grandma Camp: The 3rd Annual Grandma Camp was a smashing sucess! Megan, Joel, Paisley and Emerson flew in from San Diego which made everything complete. 

Day one we went to the Museum of Natural Curiousity, had a picnic outside, and we played all day long. We had the biggest group participate in the high ropes course there, which delighted me because I've been talking a few more of my niecephews into doing it every year. This year the adventurers were me, Marilyn, Noah, Max (for the first time and he loved it!), Linda, Kim, Andrew, Krista, Gwen, Emily, Sam, and Jami. Everyone tested their limits and found out they were stronger than they thought.

Day two we hiked to Timpanogos Cave, then had a yummy lunch at Taco Time, and then Krista and I took our kids plus Jami to Cascade Springs. I loved the chance to teach my kids about the rocks and flowers and give them a chance to push their bodies. My kids did great, hiking up the mountain like the exertion was fun, and it was. I was proud of them. Noah was so thrilled with the cave that he stood next to the guide the entire time answering a bunch of her questions and when we exited our tour he was so lit up all he talked about the whole way down was how he wanted to be a forest ranger when he grew up. We got down the mountain and he spent 45 minutes with Max and Andrew completing a workbook so they could earn their Jr. Ranger badges.

Day three was Krista's amazing Amazing Race. This is a big favorite at Grandma Camp every year and this year's race was focused around a bunch of places that played a big part in how we five sisters grew up: all three of our schools and Chick-Fil-A (where all five of us worked). It was fun to show our children more about how we grew up. This time we had to take pictures of ourselves in all the places the clues led us to and doing the challenges and then send the pictures to Krista by our phones and she would then text us a picture of where we would go next and we'd have to figure out the location from just the picture. It added a fun dimension to the race. For the challenges we had to pick up a certain colored marble in a swimming pool with our toes, build a marshmallow launcher, eat baby food, draw pictures of each team member and write nice things about them using sidewalk chalk, memorize and act out a poem, figure out the flavor of 6 unnamed jelly beans, complete a water challenge, make and deliver get well cards for cancer patients in one of the wards Krista works in at the hospital, and a few more. This year for the first time ever MY TEAM won!!!

Day four we had a card/board game marathon, made craft projects, and homemade soft pretzels.

Day five we spent some time cleaning up after ourselves at Grandma's house, took a tour of the Conference Center (it's where Grandma and Grandpa serve their mission), had a delicious lunch at the Lion House Pantry, competed in a sit up competition, and explored the new church history museum.

Braille Camp: Marilyn got to participate in a sleep away Braille Camp sponsored by the Utah Foundation for the Blind and Visually Impaired. She slept at a hotel, played lots of literacy based games, went swimming, to go see a movie (with audio descriptions), and even learned how to do tricks on a flying trapeze. What a fun time!

Air Show: One of the perks of living by the Air Force Base is that the kids got to watch the air show in the backyard with their Daddy. (Sometimes it feels like there is an air show every day.)

Looking back on June I have a hard time believing we did all of this in one month! It was a happy time